Love means that I know the person I love. I'm aware of the many sides of the other person----not just the beautiful side but also the limitations, inconsistencies and flaws. I have anawareness of the other's feelings and thoughts, and I experience something of the core ofthat person. I can penetrate social masks and roles and see the other person on a deeperlevel.
愛意味著我了解我所愛的人。我認識到對方的許多方面，不僅是美麗閃光的一面，還有能力上的不足、反復無常和性格上的缺陷。我了解對方的感情和想法，我能體驗到那個人身上的某種本質的東西。我能透過對方社交場合的表現和在社會的角色，看到他更深層次的品質。
Love means that I care about the welfare of the person I love. To the extent that it is genuine, my caring is not a smothering of the person or a possessive clinging. On the contrary, mycaring liberates both of us. If I care about you, I'm concerned about your growth, and I hopeyou will become all that you can become. Consequently, I don't put up roadblocks to what youdo that enhances you as a person, even though it may result in my discomfort at times.
愛意味著我關心我所愛的人的幸福。只要這種關心是真誠的，那么它就不會是某種壓抑或占有性的依附。與此相反，我的關心會使我們兩個都不受到束縛。如果我在乎你，我就會關注你的成長，我希望你將來成為一個有所作為的人。因此，對你為完善自己所做的一切，我決不設置障礙，即使你做的事情有時會使我不快。
Love means having respect for the dignity of the person I love. If I love you, I can see you as aseparate person, with your own values and thoughts and feelings, and I do not insist that yousurrender you identity and conform to an image of what I expect you to be for me. I canallow and encourage you to stand alone and to be who you are, and I avoid treating you asan object or using you primarily to gratify my own needs.
愛意味著尊重我所愛的人的尊嚴。如果我愛你，我會把你看成是獨立的個體，有自己的價值觀、思想和感情，我不會堅持讓你放棄自己的特性，使你變成一個我期望你成為的那種人。我會允許并鼓勵你保持獨立，堅持自己的特色，我會避免把你當作一件東西對待或用你來主要滿足我自身的需要。
Love means having a responsibility toward the person I love. If I love you, I'm responsive tomost of your major needs as a person. This responsibility does not entail my doing for youwhat you are capable of doing for yourself; nor does it mean that I run your life for you. Itdoes imply acknowledging that what I am and what I do affects you, so that I am directlyinvolved in your happiness and your misery. A lover does have the capacity to hurt or neglectthe loved one, and in this sense I see that love entails and acceptance of some responsibilityfor the impact my way of being has on you.
愛意味著對我所愛的人付責任。如果我愛你，我就會積極對待你的需要。這種責任并不等于我要為你做你自己能夠做到的事情，也不是說我為你管理你的生活。它應該是承認我和我所做的事會對你產生影響，因此我直接與你的幸福和痛苦聯系在一起。一個人的確可能會傷害或忽視他所愛的人。從這個意義上說，愛包含著我要為我(的生活方式)對你的影響承擔一定的責任。
Love means growth for both myself and the person I love. If I love you, I am growing as aresult of my love. You are a stimulant for me to become more fully what I might become, andmy loving enhances your being as well. We each grow as a result of caring and being cared for; we each share in an enriching experience that does not detract form our being.
愛意味著和所愛的人共同成長。如果我愛你，我會為了對你的愛而成長。你將是激勵我更加充實自己的動力，我的愛也會使你不斷完善提高。我們因愛與被愛而成長;我們彼此分享積累的豐富經驗而又不削減自己的個性。
Love means making a commitment to the person I love. This commitment does not entailsurrendering our total selves to each other; nor does it imply that the relationship isnecessarily permanent. It does entail a willingness to stay with each other in times of pain, uncertainty, struggle, and despair, as well as in times of calm and enjoyment.
愛意味著能夠承諾我所愛的人。這種承諾并不需要我們相互放棄自身的特性;也不是指我們的這種關系一定要天長地久。這種承諾不僅包含著愿意在痛苦、猶豫、絕望的時候相互支持，也包含著共享平靜與歡樂。
Love means trusting the person I love. If I love you, I trust that you will accept my caring andmy love and that you won't deliberately hurt me. I trust that you will find me lovable and thatyou won't abandon me; I trust the reciprocal nature of our love. If we trust each other, we arewilling to be open to each other and can shed masks and pretenses and reveal our trueselves.
愛意味著相信我所愛的人。如果我愛你，我會相信你將接受我的關心與愛意，我會相信你不會故意把我傷害，我會相信你終將發(fā)現我的可愛之處，我會相信你不會把我棄于不顧;我會相信我們是相愛的。如果我們彼此信任，我們就愿意敞開心扉，摘下面具，去掉偽裝，顯示我們真實的自我。
Love can tolerate imperfection. In a love relationship there are times of boredom, times whenI may feel like giving up, times of real strain, and times I experience an impasse. Authentic lovedoes not imply enduring happiness. I can stay during rough times, however, because I canremember what we had together in the past, and I can picture what we will have together in ourfuture if we care enough to face our problems and work them through. We agree with ReverendMaier when he writes that love is a spirit that changes life. Love is a way of life that is creativeand that transforms. However, Maier does not view love as being reserved for a perfect world. ”Love is meant for our imperfect world where things go wrong. Love is meant to be a spirit thatworks in painful situations. Love is meant to bring meaning into life where nonsense appears toreign.” In other words, love comes into an imperfect world to make it livable.
愛可以容忍缺點。在愛的關系中，必然會有厭煩的時候，有我想放棄的時候，有關系緊張的時候，有我感到絕望的時候。真愛不僅僅意味著我們能共同分享幸福。在艱難困苦的時期我也能和你在一起，因為我記得我們過去在一起度過的時光，如果我們對問題給予足夠的重視，面對問題并能度過困難時期，我能想像我們將來在一起是個什么樣子。我們同意梅爾教士的觀點，即愛是改變生活的精神力量。愛是一種創(chuàng)造性的生活方式并能使生活改善。但是梅爾并不認為愛是完美世界獨有的�！皭凼墙o予我們這個有問題的不完善的世界的。愛是在痛苦的情況下發(fā)揮作用的精神。愛就是要使看起來無意義的生活變得有意義�！睋Q句話說，愛來到這個不完美的世界使它適合人們居住。
